Episode 117: Daring to Declare: Why Owning Our Dreams Feels So Hard

Why is it so hard to say what we truly want? In this episode, I explore the internal struggle we face when declaring our ambitions out loud. Owning our dreams feels risky—what if we fail? What if others judge us? But waiting for success before claiming our goals holds us back. I break down the power of visualization, self-trust, and the critical difference between stating what we want and embodying who we become.

The Struggle to Speak Our Desires
Why do we hesitate to say, "I want this"? It often feels easier to declare who we are than to claim what we aspire to be. This section explores the fear of failure, the burden of judgment, and the self-doubt that keeps us silent—especially for women and mothers. It’s a narrative running in the background, one we don’t always notice, but it’s there. Acknowledging what we want means making it real—and that can be terrifying. But without this first step, progress is impossible.

The Power of Visualization
Before we can achieve something, we have to see it. Visualization isn’t just daydreaming; it’s a tool that directs our focus and strengthens our belief in what’s possible. In this segment, I explore how writing down, speaking, and mentally rehearsing our ambitions helps bridge the gap between where we are and where we want to be.

Declaring vs. Becoming
There’s a pivotal shift between saying “I want to be” and saying “I am.” Declaring our ambitions feels uncertain because it acknowledges a gap between desire and reality. But every successful person once had to claim their goal before it became their identity. Our ambitions shape our paths, but only if we’re willing to claim them. The journey from wanting to being starts with the courage to declare our dreams, trust in the process, and take action. If you’ve ever struggled to put your desires into words, this episode will challenge and inspire you to own them fully.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Declaring what you want is often harder than declaring who you are. Saying “I want to be…” feels risky because it hasn’t happened yet, leaving room for doubt and judgment. But waiting for success before owning your ambitions holds you back.

• Ambition isn’t arrogance—it’s self-trust. Claiming your desires doesn’t mean you lack gratitude; it means you believe in your path.

• Fear of judgment can keep you silent, but clarity creates direction. Writing down, visualizing, and speaking your dreams into existence increases the likelihood of success. No one will give you permission to pursue what you want—you have to take it.

• Every successful person once had to say, “I want this” before they could say, “I am this.” The world needs more people who step into their purpose with confidence. So say it out loud, own it, and take action.

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